Welcome to the new blog

Welcome to the new blog 💓 

It’s been a while since I wrote, after taking some time from Soul and Self, and then renaming this space Her Feminine Soul.  If you’re on my email list, you’ll know that I initially changed my website to Her Feminine Soul, as I wanted my course 'Her Song | Tending to the Feminine' to continue to have a beautiful online space to live, regardless of what direction I took my other work, writing and courses.

But in truth, the nature of the feminine soul is where the heart of my work has always been, even within my content writing/business courses. Once I decided to change the name things just started flowing in and it felt like a completely natural way to bring together the elements of my work that continued to feel resonant.

However, it has taken me quite some time to start writing here again.

I think, like many of us, last year the world suddenly felt even more sped up and full of noise and AI content. And I think I personally lost a bit of trust in my natural voice. Every time I would think about writing, there was a underlying sense of ‘What’s the point, when there is SO MUCH out there’. There was this subtle thought that kept impeding on any on any inspiration I felt, that if I was to fully get back into my business, I would have to ‘keep up with the times’ and speed up my work and process to meet new and continually evolving online demands. 

Yet recently, I have been thinking a lot about the beginnings of my first blog, and how there is truly something beautiful that happens when I just sit down and write without judgement or evaluation. When I just tune into what wants to be shared, and just start, not trying to make my words into something grand, but instead just writing what is true for me, to the women I know will receive these words.

I have also recently written my new course ‘Her Gifts’ where one of the main threads running through the teachings is around bringing in a sense of lightness and non-obligation into our work, where we are not holding things so tightly. Her Gifts felt important to create, because I have noticed how easy it is (especially for the more sensitive-hearted creatives amongst us, which is who my work draws in) to find ourselves blocked, overwhelmed or resistant to our work/business. And I have discovered that this is because so often, the depth and heart that sparked the nature of our work in the first place, can then become the very thing that trips us up as we move along in our journey of expression, sharing, visibility, selling, and business creation.

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I have always found phrases/advice like ‘Just do it’ or ‘Get over yourself’ very dismissive to the sensitive, feminine soul who has a distinct way of being and creating that does require a naturalness and bloom that cannot be forced. Yet there is also some medicine in these sentiments (albeit a less harsh and hard version) where I do see how the deep-hearted woman often needs some support in ‘letting go’ within her work, and allowing things to flow, express and be tangibly produced without drowning in the deeper elements of her nature.

I have also seen how a sensitive woman’s creative flow, confidence and ability to bring her work into tangibility can become negatively impacted when she moves too deeply into ‘heart-led’ or ‘soul purpose’ business ideals and identities. Because while usually coming from a deep and true space, these identities and ideals can also turn into over function and emotional exhaustion. Her natural depth and heart can turn into a sense of heaviness/obligation and an inability to create a healthy emotional separation between herself and business- both of which impede creative flow, natural service, and the feeling of ease and softness that she actually desires in her work/business.

I know that for me, a sense of emotional separation, lightness and ease of heart (while still maintaining a deep and heartfelt connection to my own work, creations and true audience), is vital if I want to actually bring anything into tangibility. Otherwise, I do tend to get a little lost and overwhelmed in the depths and heart of it all.

I have seen this same pattern in so many women I work with, which is why I wanted Her Gifts to deeply speak to this. Because even for those women who are in industries/services that are not as outwardly “deep” or “heart-based”, I have found that the women behind the business are still full of depth and heart, so the same patterns come up nonetheless.

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This idea of balancing depth with lightness has been a big theme in my own life, and something that I think I have had some trouble reconciling in both my life and work. On the one hand, here is so much in my soul that draws me towards lightness, where things are gentle, non-urgent, leisurely, humorous and innocent, and where there is no deeper purpose beyond just Being. Yet also, there is this deeper, wilder, intensely-feeling essence of soul that feels so at home in the deep, in the dark, in the unknown, in the unseen realms.

There is a big part of me that thrives on deep transformation, on shedding skins, on constantly dying to things, situations, beliefs, places, people. Yet alongside this, I also find so much joy in living a rested, uncomplicated life of beauty, softness, nature, children, animals and simple pleasures.  

This mirrors my feelings around my work, where I have often thought about setting up a business where there is no soul vulnerability and depth connected to my work- something more linear and ‘commodifiable.” Yet at the same time, I know there would be something deeply missing, as there is this essential creational path within me that wants to connect, express and articulate the deeper nuances of soul, as well as the more tender expressions of my feminine heart.

And after all of these years writing and creating, while also supporting the process of other women’s creations, I also now know that it feels jarring and artificial to push, force and rush our gifts, ideas and knowledge into a neat commodity to sell. There has to be somewhat of a letting go and a gentle release of what things ‘should’ look like, if we are to tap into that beautiful creative well within. It is only once we feel safe to connect to and trust in the natural unfolding of our work, that we can actually create structures and ways of positioning or packaging our work for it to be shared and sold.

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After changing the name of this space to Her Feminine Soul, I felt so intently that there was a lightness that was wanting to arise in my work, and be infused through this space. Yet for a little bit, I felt like that was almost a betrayal of the deep feminine, who descends into the dark soils and is so often in this darkened void space. I have always seen a real beauty in this dimension of feminine soul- especially because this deep, dark feminine descent also feels extremely personal, inward and imperceptible to the outside world. And this can be something very relieving to dwell in, even if it feels chaotic and unknown, because it actually feels like a private refuge for the feminine soul, away from the eyes of the world.

Yet I have realised that the heart of my work can still very much be around this deepening into soul and our deeper feminine waters- and within this, there can also be an essence of lightness that is actually a very necessary nourishment for the feminine. Allowing this lightness in is what infuses the depth of the feminine soul path with a sense of beauty, softness, rest, joy, radiance and graceful, intuitive flow. It is what keeps our depth from turning into a relentless feeling of heavy tightness, soul gravitas and seriousness (that inadvertently mirrors the control and over-responsibility that the feminine soul is seeking respite from).

I have come to see that the softness the feminine soul is seeking, requires a natural ebb and flow between our deep feminine and our leisurely, light feminine. In many ways, I have already been articulating this in my work, often speaking of the feminine soul’s desire for leisure, agendalessness and lack of heavy obligation or martyrdom, and exploring the seemingly paradoxical layers of feminine soul in Her Song. .

Yet I think I always felt on some level that I had to almost choose between the two- the lighthearted, rested, lady of leisure, or the heart-felt, deeply-feeling woman who goes into the dark, unknown depths to uncover her soul. And from here, I also felt like I had to choose which to focus on in my work. 

I am now seeing how the two go hand in hand, with both being intricate parts of our feminine fullness, Yet it can be easy to forget this in our very linear, masculinised culture, where we are unconsciously taught to define ourselves into one thing, one box, one clear cut descriptor.

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I’m sure I’ll continue to visit these themes and write more on this in the future- but for now, I will just say that I’m looking forward to writing more here, as I begin this new blog.

Belinda x

A couple of new things to explore: 

Free resources- Tend and Gentle Visibility, two resources that may be helpful for you in both the realms of tending to your feminine soul, and creating a softer mode of visibility for your creative work/business. Explore here. 

Her Gifts- opening August 17th, with earlybird presale pricing currently available.  

Convincing to Connecting ~ this is the first class from my past course, Content that Connects, and is about coming back to the heart of your work and discovering your true audience- the people who naturally resonate and are ready for what you offer- so you can share and sell gently and naturally to the right people, rather than feeling any sense of having to convince and subtly ‘push people over the line’ for sales. While I’m no longer offering the whole course, you can now purchase this 75 minute audio class/workshop separately. I’ll likely write a longer blog post on this soon, but coming back to the ideas and teachings I share in this class, has personally given me a newfound clarity and inspiration for my own work- so I hope it can do the same for you.