The art of softening

In my experience, one of the deepest pieces of the healing ‘puzzle’ for women who have been taught to diminish their feminine essence, is the art of softening.

There is a huge resurgence of the healing arts in our modern culture, which is beautiful. Yet many of the modalities, practices and solutions that we are offered, see us inadvertently coming from a space of needing to fix ourselves, in order to achieve some type of desired outcome (there is also the interesting dynamics that have arisen as healing has become increasingly commodified and sold to the masses as a magic bullet).

This way of approaching healing keeps a woman on high alert, scanning for things to fix, and improve, and building up an energetic hardness that runs in opposition to the natural energies that she holds at her core.

For a woman on the path of feminine unfolding, trying to run her energies from this hardness is exhausting and unnatural. It puts her in a subconscious state of ‘not enough,’ and keeps her trapped in a state of subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) distrust and control- in life, in relationships, in herself.

The antidote to this that I have found, for the woman who is desiring to restore the inherent energy of her feminine nature, is to release the relentless pressure to strive, and instead soften into her deeper soul.

The feminine art of softening

The art of softening describes the process of a woman de-conditioning and de-armouring from the shields that have been built up around her true essence, as a result of external (and subsequently internalised) expectations and societal and cultural norms and measures of achievement that she has been predominantly taught to strive towards.

Softening is the re-attunement back to her natural energies- a space from which she can honour, live and thrive from the value and truth of her feminine core.

This softening process is referred to as an art, because it is not a a linear system of achievement. It is a process of Being, of unfolding, of trusting, of resting in one’s true nature, rather than trying to override, prove and strive.

It is a way of being that is often bypassed in the rush to meet goals and create external outcomes. Yet it is a way of being that I have repeatedly observed as being foundational to the deeper fulfilment of a feminine-essenced woman on the path of remembering her inherent nature…

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This full piece of writing now lives in the ‘Soften & Bloom ebook’ if you would like to read more.

Belinda x