Which of these 3 feminine expressions are you currently in?
I've noticed that the woman that are drawn to my work, tend to fall into three distinct expressions of the feminine (and often a nuanced mix of all 3, at various times).
I'm wondering, which one do you feel like you're in right now? (or maybe there are elements of all 3)
1. The Rejected Feminine
The woman in this expression is usually capable, intelligent and perceptive. She's been hooked into masculine-oriented ways of living, and may feel exhausted, misaligned and unfulfilled. She is often highly critical of herself, over worked and struggling to trust in a different, softer way of living, relating and being. She often pushes away her true desires and needs, struggles to feel supported and can find it challenging to connect with her emotions and heart. Her protective shields are perfectionism, over working, maintaining control and achieving externally.
Her feminine essence has usually been pushed down through masculine conditioning and emotional wounds (from childhood, family, society). For this woman, feminine restoration is about gently unraveling her masculine shields and restoring intimacy with her feminine heart so she can feel safe to soften into her naturalness and soul essence, and receive love and support without needing to constantly earn it. From here, she can live from her true essence, feeling a sense of naturalness and nourishment, rather than exhausting herself through maintaining outer shields.
2. The Wounded Feminine
This woman is often sensitive, kind-hearted and has a deep desire to give and help in the world. Yet she struggles with co-dependency, boundaries, over giving, lack of self-belief and grounding her ideas in the world, as she hasn't been taught to feel anchored and secure in her feminine truths.
Her shields are over-humility, people pleasing, martyring herself and downplaying her gifts/expression. For this woman, feminine healing is about stepping into her value and gifts in a grounded way that allows her to see that who she is at heart truly matters, and that her needs, ideas and personal preferences are important and valid.
Her feminine restoration arises as she realises that she does not need to earn through over giving and being ‘useful’, but can instead come to rest in her nature and give from overflow, rather than unconsciously seeking approval by trying to be likable, helpful and pleasant to everyone.
3. The Feminine Void
This woman is deep in her initiation into her organic feminine soul and requires time and space to sink into her true nature- yet often feels pressured and harangued by the pace and expectations of the outside world. She feels shame and guilt around not moving quicker and often has a completely unique timeline that may not match up with the external projections of society and masculine-focused measures of success.
Often, she carries aspects of both the wounded feminine and the rejected feminine, yet these may show up in a more subtle way to others, confusing even herself. While she has a deep connection to her organic feminine essence, she may struggle to accept and express this outwardly, often craving much privacy and time away from the outside world to connect with and stabilise the truths and desires of her own feminine heart, without feeling dominated or swayed by the energies of others.
She is intuitive and spiritually connected, yet may struggle to believe in her path and deeper gifts, often feeling like she's straddled between two worlds. For this woman, feminine restoration is about the deep cultivation of faith and belief in her feminine value, natural pace and soul path. She often finds belonging amongst nature, rather than in busy groups, where she can truly just ‘Be’ without expectation or pressure to move faster or express herself in vey objective, masculine-oriented ways.
She has deep insight and feminine gifts that will unfold organically as she creates the space and inner conviction to unapologetically walk her natural path that embraces and honours her feminine knowledge, creativity and heart.
Belinda x
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